Fathers Day. A whole new view on it!

 
Fathers Day is a day that wasn't always easy for me. For many years it kind of served as a reminder that I, "didn't have a Father", and I remembering feeling resentful on Mothers/Fathers Day because of the absence of both of my parents.
 
God is incredibly faithful though. The very moment I TRULY chose to forgive those specifics pieces of my past, He opened a door of opportunity that allowed me to go and see my father in Chicago. When I was there, I not only made the choice to tell him I forgave him for his absence, but also to tell him that I unconditionally loved him, wasn't angry, and most of all, that God loved him too. When he passed last year, I took comfort in the fact that our last moment together was so beautiful.

And I realize this:: I've always had a Father. I was never Fatherless. My birth birth father may have not been present, but technically I did have one.. Oh, and God is/has always been my Father is the best part.
 
I try not to be too deep with my posts, but we overcome by the power of our testimonies. And I have a feeling one of you needs to read this. Heck, I needed to type it. Sometimes life happens and you forget how strong you are. How beautiful you are. How big your heart is. And how amazing God is in your life when you surrender.
 

Thanks for reading. Remember:: to those that grew up without their birth dad, you were never Fatherless. He just wasn't present. And though it hurts, forgive. Choose to celebrate amazing Dads around you. ~MelRo

Welcome!

Welcome Friends!

I am honored you landed on my page! Whether it was by fate, a search engine, referral, or possibly just simple curiosity, I am glad you're here!  Before you follow my journey via this blog, I'd like to share some truths with you in order for you to understand more about the author of this blog.  Why I'll post the way that I do.. What matters to me..


First off, why MelRo's Voice?  After GROWING through all that I have, and continuing this beautiful journey, I knew that I just could not keep what I've learned to myself.  After all, many times the experiences that we have aren't only meant for ourselves, they're meant to share with others along the way.  It is my belief, that when one submits to the true process of healing, it is then that they discover their true inner beauty.  My goal is to make an impact, and assist others in doing just that!



Who. Am. I.?


Such a deep question, that many of us find ourselves asking... well, ourselves.  However, since you've landed on my blog, I'm assuming you're here because you want to know who this, "MelRo" chick is right??  What's this whole, "MelRo" business about anyway? However, before I continue:

I'd like to thank you for caring enough to even visit my blog.  Secondly, I'll spare you all the, "made for t.v." like introductions, and be as transparent as possible.  I believe you've been searching to read, or hear from someone who can relate to you anyway.  Someone who understands what you go, and grow through.  An individual who cares enough to open themselves up, in order to inspire the healing you need. I get it, and... I've enthusiastically heeded the call.

I will be honest, and tell you however that I don't have all the answers to everything.  In my own humanness, I STILL get things wrong.  I still hurt, and of course, I still stumble.  What I can also tell you however, is that EVERYTHING that I'll post, will come from a true, authentic place.  My postings will come from MY experience, and inspirations.  Transparency will always flow freely here.   In other words, if I haven't lived it, or am currently living it, I won't pose as an expert, and put out content that I haven't applied to my own life.  As a reader, you have my word that I will forever be committed to this way.

Now then:

My name is:

MelissaRoshan.  That's actually one word, no space.  Yes, yes.. MelissaRoshan is my ENTIRE legal, first name.  I have no middle.  As you can imagine, when I'm in social settings, professional settings, etc., one rightfully assumes that, "Roshan" MUST be my last name.  This in turn becomes a situation in which I'm trying to explain to the often confused party that, "Roshan isn't my last name."  Finally, I decided to settle on a nickname that not only made my life easier, but also ensured that I wouldn't have to have five minute long convo's correcting, and explaining my name. Got it? Whew! That was a lot, right? (smile). In short, this is how "MelRo" was birthed.  When I met my biological mother for the first time, she explained  how important  my name was to her, and as a result---I proudly rock it  :D




My job:

So.. As I explain to you WHO I am, I have to say that what I do for a living, is just that----it's what I do for a living.  It's not who, I am.  I'd like you all to have a full understanding of the woman behind the words you'll read, and in order to achieve that, I'm laying it all out :).  I work as make-up artist, and have successfully done so for about 14 years.   Additionally, I am a print model, presenter for auto shows, speaker for the community, and an author of my forth-coming memoir: "A Beautiful Freedom".

You know, I once was backed into a verbal corner by a photographer who demanded to know, "What exactly is it that you do? I need to know if you want to be a make-up artist, model, presenter, speaker, OR author?".  She almost seemed disgusted that I chose to not live in a limited box similar to her own.  Further, she felt that she was entitled to this information, as if my ability to present a vehicle would disrupt the flow of my make-up artistry.

 I hadn't ever been late to a job, and always gave her great work, but yet she was still troubled.  I answered in this way: "I'm a woman living out her purpose, and everything that falls under that umbrella is what I do".  After-all, this was my truth, as it is to this day.  I've been given gifts, and those gifts I utilize not just for the good, but it is also my living income.  If I happen to have say, 6-7 viable gifts/talents, they'll all be put to use within my profession, AND for the greater good!  I'm grateful for that I might add, and believe there is nothing wrong with ALL of us operating in our gifts.



























Behind the costume:

And finally! We are here :).  To the place where we finally get to understand who MelRo is.  Not what I do, but who I am.  Why I have such a deep love for the people, and am a true advocate for healing, forgiveness, and living authentically. Why this blog exists.




Behind the make-up, I am a free-spirited, Hello Kitty loving, rain puddle jumping, old school music listening, every now and then stand up comedienne,  mother to an awesome teenage son, a little girl full of sunflowers, & lollipops (smile), former foster-child, survivor of child abuse, homelessness, obesity (yes, really), divorce, depression, and a current seeker of peace, love, light, and healing.  Along my journey, I only wish to inspire others to do the same. I rarely share such private details unless it's with those that are closest to me, or if I'm sharing it as a way to inspire others.... That said, here is a small video that lends to my journey:




So, there we have it... My most transparent introduction... I'm one woman, with one voice, and I am ready to share it with you all... MelRo's Voice, is a movement that inspires all women whether young, or old to heal from wounded pasts starting from the inside out.  As a result, her true beauty will be discovered.
Welcome,